Confession as a Spiritual Weapon
Via Brett Foster
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
I’ve always been taught that when you’re reading the Bible and the scripture starts with “Therefore”, always ask yourself, “What is it there for?”. The verse before says, “And the prayer offered in faith will restore the one who is sick. The Lord will raise him up. If he has sinned, he will be forgiven.”
This scripture really hits home with me. As a victim of sexual abuse as a child I brought a ton of baggage into my marriage. Since my early teens I had a porn addiction and I had a nasty habit of lying about everything. I was narcissistic, manipulative, self-absorbed, and much more.
For the first 10 years of my marriage, I put my wife through so much that it makes my skin crawl to look back at it. I was in church and called myself a believer, but I was living in an extremely dark place.
One night about 5 years ago, my wife and I were lying in bed and she started to ask me questions. She was asking me questions about pornography and whether or not I ever watched it. Of course, I quickly answered with some ridiculous lie and then we both turned over and went to sleep. However, I couldn’t fall asleep. In that moment it became very clear to me how good I was at lying. To me, it was like breathing. My father was like that and I always swore to myself that I would never turn out like him.
After wrestling with it for the rest of the night and into the next day, it got to the point where I couldn’t think of anything else. I couldn’t focus. I couldn’t function. It was consuming my thoughts. The weight of my sins had finally brought me to my knees and I had to confess to my wife. So that afternoon I came clean to my wife about my pornography addiction and all the lies I’ve told her through the years.
She was deeply hurt and decided to go stay with some friends for a little while. It was the darkest moment of my life. Yet, somehow I felt a light. After she drove off, I hit my knees and prayed to the Lord for a new beginning. Completely broken, I asked God to forgive me and deliver me from the bondage of addiction, lust and deception. From that moment on, I have never even had a slightest urge to look at pornography and I’ve dedicated my life to being a man of integrity and purity.
After a lot of work, God not only restored my marriage, but He made us better than we’ve ever been. We now have 2 children and we’re closer than ever.
When I confessed my sins to my wife, it shined a light on the darkest areas of my life. That sin had nowhere to hide. I had nowhere to hide and even though it was the scariest thing I’ve ever done, it was also the smartest thing I’ve ever done.
The enemy dwells in the darkness. He creeps around trying to exploit all our weaknesses without us even realizing it. As long as our sin stays hidden, he can use it to his advantage. Once we shine a light on that sin by confession, the enemy has nothing to work with.
The only way to fight this battle against our enemy is to our lives in the light. Even when we fail, we own our mistakes and gain strength from them. The truth gives us an advantage over our enemy and we must use it to fight.
Since confessing my sins over 5 years ago, I’ve lived a life of confession. It hasn’t been easy and I sometimes fail, but openness and honest communication is the only way to keep the devil out of my marriage, my family, my relationships, and my life.
Confession is probably the hardest thing you’ll ever have to do, but if you desire true freedom and victory in the battles you face as a man, you must come clean about any sin in your life. Before saying a word, go the Lord in prayer and ask God to give you the strength. He will not only give you the strength to come clean, He will also give you the strength to endure the aftermath.