Lust of the Eyes, Protecting your Eyes
“The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness!” Matthew 6:22-23
This passage hits home for me because I have failed this assignment on many occasions. Even today it is hard to not block out what I used to call God’s perfect creations. Why would he create a fine work of art to not look at? I used to tell myself that I was just appreciating God’s work and there was no harm in looking at it. What could go wrong? Well pornography crept in my life because of just admiring his work. That has been the hardest sin to overcome. Even being married did not stop me from looking. Those lonely nights she did not want to have sex because she was not feeling well or just not in the mood. Pornography was the getaway. But, pornography is part of the problem. The real issue is my eyes. They are my trigger for wanting to watch such a sinful thing. My trigger was not having sex when I wanted to, seeing the next door neighbor in those short shorts, the nurse (in the tight uniform) who was taking care of a family member, etc. My eyes led me to fantasizing which led to lusting for people I knew I could not and should not have.
Lust comes in many shapes and sizes in this world. There is one thing about lust which is very apparent to me. Lust is a sleeping giant which can destroy a marriage, relationship, friendship and most importantly our walk with God.
I remember confessing to my wife about my lust for other women and how I was speaking to women in a manner in which a married man shouldn’t speak. That was the scariest thing I have ever had to do in my entire life. I knew I might lose my wife who treats me like a king and loves God more than me. My lustful nature almost destroyed my marriage in which God had planned since my birth. My mentor spoke with me about this and recommended a great book called “EVERY MAN’S BATTLE” by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker. This book changed my world, especially the part about making a covenant with your eyes. After reading that, I made a covenant with the Lord to gouge my eyes if I look at a woman other than my wife with lust. I asked Him to hold me accountable to my actions and to guide my thoughts and tame my sin. Can I say that I am cleansed? No! There are days when I fall but not as bad as before. I see what my actions were before and how I can divert myself from committing that sin.
Today’s Training: Think about what you are doing on a daily basis. Think about what your eyes look at. Think about how many times your sin has gotten the best of you. Is this something you want to deal with the rest of your life? What would your wife think if she knew you lusted after women as much as you do while neglecting her? Could you still be a leader within the Church Community with your actions? Let’s take it a step further. How would you explain your thought process at the Kingdom Gates of Heaven? If you are feeling convicted, then you have some training to do. We are not perfect in any sense, but we can work together to fix it. I challenge any man to admit their lustful nature. Give it to God, and if you need to speak with your wife about it, then do so. This could let the weight off your shoulders so you can begin a new chapter similar to how my wife and I were able to do. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP!!!