Pornography and Its Impact
“Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.”
In April of 2014 my wife and I attended a conference in Jacksonville, Florida. It was such a refreshing time as we were being poured into by some of the most influential ministry leaders in our nation. At the end of the conference we left ready to conqueror the world. As we traveled back on Interstate 95, towards home, the Holy Spirit gently whispered, “Tell your wife about your porn addiction.” This is not a conversation any husband looks forward to having. I knew, if I truly wanted to be a kingdom man I would have to engage in this conversation.
As a Kingdom man, from the perspective of a lover, I recognize the strength in vulnerability. The impact of this addiction is beyond measure. Engaging in battle with this addiction without enlisting the help of accountability partners can be overwhelming. We read in Ephesians 4:12 Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. We need to recognize the strength we have when others are part of the healing.
It was time to have the conversation. As I drove, I gripped the steering wheel tighter, and said to my wife, “Babe, I love you and truly believe God is going to use us in a mighty way for His kingdom. In order for that to happen I have to be healed. I have been addicted to pornography from 11 years old until now. I have carried this addiction into our marriage, and I see its potential to destroy our marriage and our ministry.” I sat silent and waited for her response. I was ready for anger, bitterness, resentment, rejection. Her response was, “John, the Holy Spirit told me one year ago, I have been waiting for this conversation.” At that point the healing process began. Although pornography can destroy marriages, our God is greater. When we recognize our need for healing and take the necessary steps to enlist the help of others, we start moving towards the freedom promised in Jesus name.
Take a moment to consider the impact, or potential impact an addiction to pornography can have on yourself and those around you. If married, think about the impact this addiction can have on the intimacy shared with your spouse. If single, think about the future impact this could have on your marriage. Lastly, prayerfully consider the conversation you need to have to begin walking towards healing.