A man who has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. ~Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. ~Proverbs 17:17
You did not choose Me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit, and that your fruit should remain, that whatever you ask the Father in My name He may give you. These things I command you, that you love one another. ~John 15:16-17
This week we will discuss examples of Brotherly Love. As you may know, the language of The New Testament (Greek) has four words for illustrating love. Philia has been translated into English as “Brotherly Love”, along with Storge (“Bond of Empathy”), Agape (“Unconditional Love”), Eros (“Romantic Love”) to give us a more precise meaning as to which expression of love the writer is referring.
As we continue in our Wingman Project, I don’t think that it is possible to over emphasize the importance of Love and Trust. These crucial ingredients play off of and support each other like keeping a flywheel in motion. While walking in a “Brotherly Love” (Philia) relationship, the Love and Trust are two sides of the same coin as it is impossible to experience one without the other. Love and Trust together lay the foundation for the hard work and iron sharpening that will take place.
Imagine a Kingdom Man that sticks closer than a brother and who was “born” to be with you through times of adversity. Do you think that man could help you bear fruit? Do you think he would be there to celebrate your highs and to help you pick up the pieces in your lows? Do you think he’d tell you the hard truths in love with the goal to train, rebuke, correct and train in righteousness (2 Tim 3:16-17) as you build grit and character? Do you think he’d reflect love and help you extend the love of Christ to others around you through discipline, encouragement and compassion? Do you think he’d push you out of your comfort zone, but hold you securely on belay as your courage and physical/spiritual limits are tested?
The good news is we don’t have to imagine this relationship. The Bible gives us an excellent picture! David and Johnathan are Wingmen’s Wingmen. David, God’s appointed heir to the throne, and Johnathan, King Saul’s son and bloodline heir to the throne. Under normal circumstances, these two men should have been at least competitors if not outright enemies. Yet as we see in 1 Samuel chapters 18-20, “the soul of Johnathan was knit to the soul of David and Johnathan loved him as his own soul” (1 Samuel 18:1). These men loved each other, they trusted each other, they sparred with each other and ultimately they each saved each other as Johnathan saved David’s life and David saved Johnathan’s legacy.
Kingdom Men, these relationships are still real. I know because I’ve experienced it. A few years ago, my wife and I were separated due to a military assignment and as I’m sure you can understand it put strain on our marriage. At the same time I was battling a major medical issue and surgery which were threatening my career. One of my close brothers, Josh, invited me to stay with him and his family for weeks. In opening their home, he, his wife and his kids poured into my life. He spoke hard truths and called out my BS that was affecting my marriage. He prayed fervently with me and encouraged me in the Word. He challenged me and strengthened my resolve and character. Together we started a Men’s group that challenged men to abandon our superficial conversations and relationships as Josh always said, “I don’t have time for that crap.” As a group we dove deep and fast! Through his intentionality and love I was set free. I was free to love my wife more lovingly. Free to lead men more effectively. Free to believe that God would restore my career. Walking in these freedoms has shaped my story and woven my legacy and that is in no small part due to the Brotherly Love and discipleship of a Kingdom Man named Josh. Thank you brother. I love you.
Tomorrow we’ll dive even deeper into Brotherly Love with a look into how we should be known.
Daily Battle Order: Kingdom Men, it’s not a secret that TJC wants this type of fellowship and intimacy for each of you. As we see with David and Johnathan, not only is it a game changer but it can save your life and legacy. Lean into the Wingman Project. Allow God to explore this relationship, be friendly and show love. Be willing to take a chance, step out of your comfort zone, go on belay. You’ll see the fruit in return!
Here’s a practical step. Learn where your wingman lives. Be able to get to his house without the use of GPS.