Mentored in Marriage

via TJC

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

-In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

-This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.”

Ephesians‬ 5:25, 28, 32‬ NIV‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬‬

Between my wife and myself, we have 68 years of marriage experience. No we are not that old; as divorcees we are committed to proving the statistics wrong and that this a second marriage will be the best and only.  After 12 years together now, we are still learning big lessons, those built off of great mentorship we received before being married and still recycle.  The foundation lessons don’t change; we just lose sight of them sometimes and “re-dos” are awesome times to go back to basics.

Have to admit it was a little bit of humble pie to eat, when a much younger man at our church led us, partnered with his wife, and  mentored us on establishing a Godly marriage.  However much younger these mentors were to us; they had walked loving one another the way Christ loved the church.

We were well past the marriage talks on raising kids, career decisions, changes in dating to marriage and sex; that a newlywed hears.  We could write that book ourselves.

Instead we chewed on the meat – “how do we as selfish people, give up ourselves  the same way Christ does? 

Our second marriages have been dramatically different than the first go around. We both say we wish we had always anchored our earlier marriages this way, and share that frequently with younger couples at our table.  We know now how Christ blesses our sacrificial love.

It’s been important for us to realize this hasn’t been a one and done mentorship. We have had a particularly close set of friends that we could be absolutely transparent on and collectively do couples accountability.  We continuously keep our eyes out for experienced older couples doing life well and are not shy in going after them as friends and mentors.

Daily Battle Order:  My wife is my best friend, a wingman, however, there are some things I’m going to share with a man first rather than unleashing the Kraken if I misstate to my wife. One of those is sexual purity – I can tell another man I feel like I’m off course and have them wake me up so I don’t have to tell my wife.   Who is your wingman in one of the most important relationships you will ever have – your marriage? When have you last connected ? Have things changed and do you need new mentors who can share with you and your wife on new challenges you now face?  

Victory on a muddy GA creek; Chickamauga – Spiritual warfare training 10 April.

Outside Chatanooga TN in 1863, massive armies of the Union and Confederacy collided along a muddy creek. Three days later amidst some of the civil war’s most brutal hand to hand fighting and rare night battles, the Union was forced to retreat. The confederacy had won a major battle, but not victory. 

If you’ve read The Joshua Commission, trained with us, maybe even participated with us at Chickamauga; you know we focus on critical lessons learned for our own spiritual battles.  This training on 10 April is going to turn the battlefield story on its head as we walk the terrain and wrestle with, “what is victory in our lives and how are we going after that as a kingdom Man.

We start out at our base camp on Friday, 9 April, camping along that serene creek; enjoying fellowship, awesome cooking, and preparing for time travel, into our personal stories on Saturday, 10 April.

0n Saturday 10 April, after a hearty camp breakfast, we meet up at the Chickamauga National Battlefield Visitor Center at 9am. Those unable to camp are welcome to join us at that time.

We then spend the day, bushwhacking into the history of 1863 and points of our own lives. Our objective will put us on the high ground framing how we each will walk out victory in our realms.

A roaring campfire, and another meal of fellowship rounds out the day; capturing next steps as a Kingdom Man.

Please go to our website for more information and to register.

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