Adjusting Is Both A Process And An Achievement

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In psychology, "adjustment" can be seen in two ways: as a process and as an achievement. Adjustment as a process involves the ongoing strategies people use to cope with life changes, while adjustment as an achievement focuses on the end result—achieving a stable and balanced state. - Sharma, S (2016). ""Adjustment: Process, Achievement, Characteristics, Measurement and Dimensions"". ResearchGate. Retrieved 2024-11-09.

As I reflect on the countless, on-the-fly adjustments I’ve made through the ten years I’ve been married, I realize more and more that to be successful with one’s adjustments, one must realize that adjustment equals preparation. Preparation of our heart, mind, soul, and strength will reveal strategies to cope with life’s challenges and changes, and maybe more importantly achieve a stable and balanced state. 

As mentioned above, many adjustments I’ve been forced to make over the years have been without preparation. I do understand some matters catch us off-guard or through pride, arising even when we swore it would “never happen to me”. Situations, whether small or large, will arise and our stability, and balanced emotions during those times, will reveal so much about who we are. Pressure and adaptability are the great revealers! And here’s what God doesn’t do in those situations:

1. He doesn’t tell us everything.

2. He doesn’t answer all our prayers.

3. He doesn’t need our perceived strength.

4. He doesn’t bless carnal Christianity (Gods not making deals)

I’ve learned this the long and hard way. Too many times I’ve reached pinnacles in my marriage where I swore it would end and that the only thing to do was give up. But that’s not adjusting, that’s shutting down and bowing out. The reason quitting is easy is because we’ve been duped into believing that the adjustments post quitting are easier than showing up and obtaining the scars. Love alone is worth the fight and God already demonstrated it was for his bride.

Daily Battle Order:

Read Psalm 119 and get your heart, mind, soul, and strength ready through preparation - the adjustments are coming! Make the adjustments more stable and balanced and determine today to take action to change your identity as someone who can handle most anything cool as a cucumber and doesn’t make those around you sick with emotional and prideful turbulence.