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“It's all about “This” Relationship”, Stupid

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"Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind" and "Love your “wife” as yourself” Matthew 22


We have spent quite a bit of time talking about our marriages, because frankly you and your relationships are only as healthy as your relationship with God and your wife.  God is #1, your wife is #2.  We all sort of agree on that priority, but are those relationships truly your priorities?

So this week we are going to get tactical and the next four days will be talking about key strategies for seeing your marriage flourish through increased intimacy and interdependence.


Capt. Tag, USMC shared this with me through the recruiting process and it has stuck with me “You can not trust a man to lead other people, if he can not lead his family”.  Well the military was good at building combat leaders, but not the model for leading a family in our daily chaos and occasional conflicts. I have some relational war stories!


Marriage is work - you must work hard to stay closely connected.  We often hear that opposites attract (at first), but then if you stay opposites you will attack one another.  Individual differences are divine- because they complete us as partners.  But you must work to retain differences as God created you, but become more like God and thus closer together and not opposites attacking.


This week we will sharing on four core areas to draw closer together:


  • ADJUSTING - Couples in early marriage must adjust to one another and then with each season.  We can not change our partner so must always be changing ourselves becoming more Christ like

  • PRUNING - we must address the busyness of our lives and prune back certain relationships, activities, work, etc  to always prioritize our marriage

  • SUPPORTING - we need a supporting network of friends and family.  We all face challenges from illness, infertility, finances, aging parents.  Supporting each other to face challenges draws us closer

  • RENEWING - - Slowing down long enough to decide on changes we’d like to make individually and as a couple throughout our marriage.  Stopping certain things to have more time together.  Starting something new that will strengthen or renew connections


Daily Battle Order: Take a look at your work schedule this past week, or next weeks; and you can clearly see where you prioritize and focus your efforts.  If you are honest, where is the prioritized effort you put out for God and your wife on that list?  Don't say church on Sunday, and stop there. 


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