The Victorious Man Loves Courageously
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. – Ephesians 5:22-24 (NIV)
How often has this passage of scripture been misconstrued and misused to make our wives or girlfriends submit to our authority unjustifiably? It’s important to note, Kingdom Man, that we cannot allow Ephesians 5:22-24 to stand on its own. While you may be considered the head of the family, this does not necessarily mean you call all the shots. You do so with your wives’ input. You are, however, responsible for the results, be it negative or positive. The foolish man cherry picks the scripture and stops at verse 24, the Kingdom Man presses in and reads on.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. – Ephesians 5:25-27 (NIV)
I’ve heard it said many times that the man may be the head of the family, but the wife is the neck which helps in guiding where the head goes, and the eyes see. The head is going nowhere without the neck as support. As men we all crave respect. Equally so, our wives crave love. This love is so fervent that we’re challenged by Paul in his letter to love her just as much as Christ loved the Church, his people. So much so that he was willing to die for them.
You, as a Kingdom Man, must be willing to lay down your pride, and go so far as to lay down your life, for your wife. This could mean something so small as to not try to win every argument, and it could mean something so great as to what I had to do in sucking it up and going to seek Christian counseling when your wife approaches you and says she’s “done”. You’re also called to lead her in pursuit of the love of the Gospel.
Men and women are not made to be the same, but to complement one another and to be a mate and a helper (Genesis 2:18). I like to say that my wife and I could not be any more different than we already are. It’s easy for me to let Satan sneak in and point out all the faults in that, when in fact God wants me to celebrate that and love her not “despite” our differences but “because” of our differences. Allowing myself to be vulnerable and love her for the areas I’m weak in and she is strong is not an easy task. It certainly takes courage to humble myself to do this.
Daily Battle Order: Kingdom Man, we have a battle ahead of us when it comes to fighting for the love and respect of our wives. Nobody said it would be easy, but it will certainly be rewarding. Set aside your pride for the day and lead your wives and families as Christ love and led the Church.